Valerie Bertinelli has opened up about her past romances, admitting that she “fumbled the last true good man” she had on her arm.
The Food Network alum, 64, took to social media this week to reflect on the “mistakes” she made in her past relationships as she provided some advice to her fans.
“I think about mistakes I’ve made in relationships a lot. I’ve been on both sides of this and I think I finally have some perspective, so I thought I’d share,” she wrote on Instagram alongside a selfie.
“When you feel hurt and wronged and know you deserve an apology but are being stonewalled by your partner because they’re feeling shame, maybe this can shift your thinking.”
Bertinelli, 64, listed several questions people in the dating world should ask themselves when faced with any challenges in a relationship.
“Are you only pointing out what they’re doing wrong, being hypercritical, and expecting them to just fix it? That could be making things worse,” the “Hot In Cleveland” alum wrote.
“Change, real change, never happens through criticism, shame, or pressure. They most likely already feel all that. (I know when I f–k up, oof, do I feel shame).”
“Maybe try, ‘This is how I feel when this happens, can we figure this out together?’ That one small change can make a difference. Then you’re on the same team. You’re not working *against* each other, you’re working *with* each other.”
The “One Day at a Time” alum admitted that while it’s difficult tackling relationship issues head-on, it’s ultimately always worth it.
“I think we all just want to do better and feel awful when we’ve hurt someone we love and shame prevents us from thinking clearly. Wouldn’t it be nice to relieve the one you love from shame so they can truly give you the amends you’re looking for?” she asked.
“Then again, what do I know,” she quipped. “I have two failed marriages and fumbled the last true good man I met. Maybe don’t take advice from me.”
In November, Bertinelli split from her long-distance boyfriend, Mike Goodnough, after 10 months of dating.
Before her romance with Goodnough, Bertinelli was married to Tom Vitale.
Bertinelli met the financial planner and entrepreneur — also CEO of e-commerce company Veebow — in 2004 and got engaged in March 2010.
The pair tied the knot in January 2011. After a decade together, the “Valerie’s Home Cooking” host filed for legal separation from Vitale in November 2021.
In November 2022, Bertinelli announced that she was “happily divorced” from Vitale.
She was married to the late Eddie Van Halen from 1981 until 2007. In October 2020, the legendary rocker died from cancer at the age of 65.
The pair had one child together, son Wolfgang, now 33. Meanwhile, Vitale had four of his own children from a previous marriage.
