It’s the new law of attraction.
Dating expert Louanne Ward has revealed the one mistake that is “killing your own attraction powers without even realizing it.”
“Rushing conversation to fill silence,” she stated in a post on Instagram. “Thinking more about what you want to say next rather than listening. Fast movements or fidgeting.”
Those “simple things” can add up to become “attraction blockers,” the Aussie matchmaker explained.
But Ward shared a “simple 3-second hack” that will make you appear “more attractive, more charismatic and more memorable,” which she has dubbed the “pause and hold technique.”
“Most people never use this because silence feels uncomfortable. But the moment you learn to own it, you change the way people see you forever,” she said.
Detailing her formula to maximize attraction, she advised to “pause for three seconds” after entering a room, meeting a new person or before speaking.
“Hold eye contact before looking away. Pause before responding to a question,” she recommended. “Let a moment breathe instead of rushing to fill it.”
According to Ward, the method works because “pausing shows confidence.”
“People who rush seem nervous. A slight pause signals certainty,” she explained.
“Holding eye contact builds connection. Just 2–3 seconds can make someone feel an instant pull toward you,” she continued. “It makes people lean in. When you don’t rush, your words carry more weight.”
Experts have previously shared that confidence amps up sex appeal — in fact, it is “undeniably attractive.”
“When you exude self-assurance and you feel comfortable in your skin, others are naturally drawn to you,” Relationship and psychosexual psychotherapist Clare Faulkner previously told the Daily Mail.
At the time, she also advised being more engaged with whomever you’re speaking to by “being genuinely interested in the other person, and really listening.”
Making other people feel important, she added, can make them “feel a frisson and they don’t want to leave your orbit.”
