A bride called off her wedding after discovering a “major red flag” with her fiancé.
The 28-year-old woman shared on Reddit that she’s been with her 30-year-old fiancé for five years and that they were planning a wedding for later this fall.
To provide context, she shared that the two of them had spent years planning their lives together — including buying a house together that they can make a home with their future kids.
“This was talked about a lot,” she emphasized.
But he seemed to be thinking about his future with someone else.
“Welp. Turns out he already bought a house. But not with me … with his MOM,” the poster wrote. “And he didn’t even tell me he was looking.”
“Apparently she found ‘the perfect place’ and convinced him to split it with her [because] she ‘didn’t want to rent anymore.’ So now, instead of us planning our future together, he’s financially tied to his mother, who’s going to be living there full-time.”
When she questioned her fiancé, he just told her she can move in with her future mother-in-law.
“When I asked where I fit into all this, he goes, ‘Oh, well, you can move in too, of course!’ Like I’m supposed to be thrilled to live in a house his MOM picked out, partially owns, and is just … there all the time,” she shared.
The groom-to-be pushed back, justifying the decision by putting it back on the woman.
“He also admitted he did it [because] ‘I was taking too long’ to save and his mom offered him a ‘faster way’ to own something,” she said.
The bride was “shocked and pissed” and told him she needed space — before ending the engagement.
“The more I thought about it, the more I realized I can’t marry someone who thinks this is normal. So, I called off the wedding,” she admitted.
The fiancé’s family began “blowing up her phone” after she made the decision, saying that she’s “dramatic” and “overreacting.” They insisted that “it’s just a house” and they can still “live together.” Even the bride’s parents told her that canceling the wedding is “extreme.”
But the commenters on the Reddit post agreed with the bride that this was a “giant red flag.”
“He didn’t just buy a house. He built a whole future with his mommy and left you out of it. That’s not a mistake … it’s a conscious decision to prioritize her over you. And the fact that he thought you’d just move in like a guest in a home his mother controls? Disrespectful as hell,” one person wrote.
The same person added, “This isn’t just a red flag, it’s a parade of them. If you marry him, you’re not getting a husband … you’re signing up to be the third wheel in his codependent mommy-son fantasy. He’s already made his choice, and it wasn’t you.”
Another person said that the groom made the bride “an afterthought.”
“The kick in the teeth is that he made sure to take care of himself in terms of big-ticket assets, leaving [the bride] exposed if they should ever split,” someone pointed out.
“It’s not just about the wedding. It’s about the life you are going to live with him. If he puts his mother first [in] everything or makes important decisions like this without you, it will cause a lot of conflict,” one user wrote. “And it’s not just a house, him buying a house with her means he won’t be able to buy one with his wife for quite some time.”
“You dodged the biggest bullet in the world,” someone else declared.
