A woman is deeming herself “boy sober” after experiencing a tough few years in the New York dating scene, she said.
Carly Galluzzo, 28, is from Long Island, New York, and has recently given up on dating.
Galluzzo said she went on four dates a month last year and realized she was trying to find a boyfriend “out of fear,” as SWNS reported.
“I felt that I had to keep dating [and] it didn’t matter whether the men were good or not,” she said.
She added, “It was just something that I feared that if I didn’t pursue something straight away, I’d miss out on something.”
Galluzzo said she had been dating in earnest since she was 16 years old, even going on luxury New York City dinner dates and private jet trips to the Bahamas at times.
The law student said she felt like her only conversations with friends surrounded dating and finding a partner — and some of the chats would leave her feeling low in confidence afterward.
“Dating in NYC, the guys were dating models — so I’d question how I could make myself more attractive,” she said, as SWNS reported.
At one point, Galluzzo said she was dating someone who took her to the South of France — and she was miserable.
“My ex-boyfriend was very wealthy and took me to a lot of great places, and that validation from my peers felt good,” she said.
She quickly added, “But I can say now that I’ve lived that life crying my eyes out on a yacht in the South of France … I was so miserable.”
At the beginning of 2024, however, she realized that “it finally clicked.”
“I found myself planning weddings after knowing someone for a week,” she said to SWNS.
Understanding that wasn’t a healthy mindset, Galluzzo decided to go “boy sober” — and said she has “never been happier.”
“I don’t care what I look like if I see some eligible man in the grocery store,” she said.
Galluzzo said she feels like a 1,000-pound weight has been lifted off her shoulders and that she feels content now.
“What I’m feeling right now, I could do this forever and be happy,” she said.
As for what others think of her personal choice, Galluzzo said some don’t agree with the mindset.
“People say I’m 28, and they think more about the biological clock of it all — but the only person I really care about is my mom and her opinion, and she’s on board with me,” she told SWNS.
The New York resident said that she understands that not everyone will understand her choice, but she feels it’s the right choice for her at the moment, though that could change in the future.
“For today, I don’t want a partner and I don’t want to think about it,” she said.
